Yesterday, I learned from a friend that a family who goes to their church lost their 6-7 month old daughter, Mackenzie. The father went in to check on her and she was found not breathing in her crib. Please keep the Young family in your prayers. I have received so many heartbreaking prayer requests lately. I was asked to share some things that brought comfort to us after Logan died. No two situations or people are the same, but here are some things that helped us.
1) Cards. It seems like something so small, but we would go to the mailbox every day for weeks and find handfuls of cards. It meant a lot to us.
2) Food. Again, our situation was different because we weren't ever home and our freezers were stocked full of breastmilk. Gift cards to restaurants were helpful.
3) Let them know you care even if you don't understand. But, don't say that it will get easier with time. A break up with a boyfriend, the death of a pet. . .that gets easier with time. A death of a child does not. We were told something that has stuck with us. . .It doesn't get easier, it just gets more familiar.
4) Gifts with the child's name or in their honor. We received a tree to plant, Christmas ornaments, framed pictures, a wind chime with Logan's initials, Willow tree twin figurines (one with angel wings) along with many more. It helps us know that our child will never be forgotten.
5) Donations that help spread awareness or help prevent the cause of death.
6) Meeting other people who have gone through similar experiences has helped tremendously.
I know it is hard for others to know how to comfort someone who has gone through the unthinkable. . .whatever it is. If anyone has any other suggestions of things that helped them, please leave a comment if you wish.
Most of all, like the song says:
Love Them Like JesusJust love them like Jesus, carry them to Him
His yoke is easy, His burden is light
You don’t need the answers to all of life’s questions
Just know that He loves them and stay by their side
Love them like Jesus